You have to draw boundaries.

But there is a more insidious problem at work. Households need someone to take care of the household. If both parents work, then they need to have a third person who “holds things together” while the parents work.

If you can’t afford that, you might be living above your means. Then again, our society has restructured since women entered the workforce. In urban areas, it is now so expensive to live that it might be hard for many people to have a housekeeper or home custodian. Things tend to adjust to the point at which people can just barely afford to get by. I believe that Elizabeth Warren called this the “two income trap”.