What a horrible experience.

I think you might be over-stepping though when you claim that your trauma was worse than mine. Mine was pretty bad — death of both parents, loss of daughter, loss of home, loss of wife, loss of job, topped off with enormous debt — and then being hunted for years by my ex’s high priced lawyers. At some point one becomes numb and more trauma doesn’t matter. I was violated too — I was raped by the court system, numerous times — a system that I thought would protect my rights. I finally had a nervous breakdown in 1998 and was unable to function. But fortunately I was able to climb out of all of that and today, while talking about it makes my shoulder shake, I have put it behind me. You can too.

Your trauma was awful; I don’t think it makes sense to compare two really awful trauma periods of different people and try to say that one was “worse” than the other: “He lost both his parents and was jailed, chained to a bench, and violated by the system” — “But she lost her parents, and was violated by her uncle”. At some point, more doesn’t make it any worse — it is as bad as it can get. I was raped once actually (though by a stranger), and what happened to me from the court system was far worse.