I think that we have taken a step backward in some ways.

I'll use myself as an example. If I were a teenager today I would probably conclude that I am "really a woman" (my reproductive gender is male).

I would conclude that because the narrative today is that if you relate better to the _current_ norms of the other sex, then you are "really" that sex.

That is a very confused viewpoint:

The way that I relate to others, what I think, what I like to do, etc. is not my gender. It is simply me. And I should not try to put a label on it.

Labeling is toxic. Labels limit us, divide us, and target us. Let's stop putting labels on people - including whether one is male or female.

Let's use "male" or "female" to _only_ refer to one's reproductive gender. Let's not use a label for anything else. Then we will be free to be whoever we are - to defy any label.